Saturday, March30, 2024
Following one thought to the next this morning I wound up here, on this blog I’ve shared with my special friend, Anita Garner. We’ve been chronicling the events of our separate lives for 16 years. More importantly, we’ve shared our thoughts and feelings of the moment with our children and theirs just in case they wonder about us at some point.
I wish I knew more about the lives of my parents and theirs. My dad, born in 1929, was of a generation that believed children should be seen and not heard. It sounds mean but it was common sense at the time. Dad just figured if I were going to be in the room with adults it would be better for all of us if I sat quietly and just listened. I could learn and they wouldn’t be bothered by my childish interruptions. That probably makes some sense but it didn’t allow me to ask questions.
The attitude extended to what amounted to an information blackout. The grownups wouldn’t tell me much about their younger lives. They’d drop a little nugget here and there but if I asked a follow-up question or two we soon got to the point where I was told, “That was a long time ago. Go outside and play.”
My childhood was a long time ago and I still want to know more about the people who gave me life, loved, and taught me. That’s why I write these essays so that my kids and theirs can know me better than conversation ever allowed.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could learn about our ancestors back many generations, if our grandparents could introduce us to theirs and so on over the decades and centuries past? If we could get an idea of who we are and why we belong here, wouldn’t we take ourselves a bit more seriously? Maybe we’d try a little harder to be worthy of the chain that binds family to humanity.
We are all the sum of many; we are each the result of thousands of loves.
