(This piece was originally self-published at LinkedIn.com)
When I was a kid I lived to play baseball.If our team lost, too bad. I really didn’t care much.
When our high school team lost, while the other kids were cursing and slamming bats, I was laughing and chattering about the exciting moments of the game. This annoyed my coaches and my teammates thought I was a loser.
Why are humans so competitive? Why do we fight to win everything from board games with the family to business deals and meaningless arguments with our friends? As it was with baseball, my attitude has always been you try to win because that’s the point of the game – but it’s just a game. If it’s time well spent and you did your best, good enough. Shrug it off and move on.
Why are people self-centered to the point of defensive bragging? What is it about the ego that frequently overrides our desire to learn from each other by our desperate need to insist we know best, even as we know we’re wrong?
I’ve always wondered about this stuff. Now, social media have brought these questions front and center.
Perfectly nice people in real life become brutal monsters on Twitter. They say things with their keyboards they would never say with their eyes.
Quiet people who “always kept to themselves ” suddenly walk into a grade school armed to the teeth and commit unimaginable atrocities.
As my Dallas radio partner, Amy Chodroff, often wonders aloud, “What’s wrong with people?”
What’s wrong, indeed?
I’m almost 72. I suppose I could go back to school and pursue the psychology degree I considered 55 years ago. Maybe I will but most likely I won’t. For now, I took my search for answers to our new technological Wizard of Oz, ChatGPT.
Why are people ego-centric and competitive?I asked.
Here’s the A.I. Big Brain Answer:
The ego-centric and competitive tendencies observed in people can be attributed to a combination of various factors, including evolutionary biology, socialization, cultural influences, and individual psychology. Here are some key reasons why people may exhibit ego-centric and competitive behaviors:
- Evolutionary Biology: From an evolutionary perspective, competition has played a significant role in the survival and reproduction of our species. Throughout history, individuals who were more competitive and focused on their own needs and resources had a higher chance of passing on their genes. This has led to the development of certain ego-centric and competitive tendencies in humans.
- Socialization and Upbringing: The way individuals are raised and socialized within their families, communities, and societies can significantly shape their behaviors and attitudes. In many cultures, competition is encouraged and valued as a means of achieving success, recognition, and status. This socialization can foster ego-centric and competitive mindsets.
- Cultural Influences: Cultural factors play a significant role in shaping people’s values, beliefs, and behaviors. In some cultures, individualism and self-interest are highly valued, which can contribute to ego-centric tendencies. Similarly, cultures that emphasize competition and achievement may foster a more competitive mindset among individuals.
- Psychological Factors: At the individual level, certain psychological factors can contribute to ego-centric and competitive behaviors. For example, some individuals may have a strong need for validation, recognition, or power, leading them to prioritize their own interests over others. Additionally, factors like low self-esteem, fear of failure, or a scarcity mindset can drive individuals to compete intensely for resources or success.
- Societal Structures and Incentives: Societal structures, such as economic systems or organizational hierarchies, can create environments that foster competition. When individuals are rewarded based on their individual achievements or when resources are perceived as limited, it can fuel ego-centric and competitive behaviors as people vie for success, promotions, or other rewards.
It’s important to note that while ego-centric and competitive tendencies are common, they are not universal to all individuals. People vary in their levels of competitiveness, and factors like empathy, cooperation, and altruism are also part of the human experience. Additionally, socialization and cultural shifts can influence the prevalence and manifestation of these behaviors over time.
The answer to my lifelong question spewed forth in less than ten seconds and it makes perfect sense. I always figured that an inherent competitive drive is what enabled primordial life to crawl out of the prehistoric swamp goo, grow feet and hands, grab a stick, and then whack its neighbor.
Game on.
What it doesn’t explain is why our egos impel the most driven of us to lie, cheat, steal, and even kill to win.
I suspect something went haywire in our evolutionary process. Morality got short-circuited because it would have just confused our ancestors while they were battling saber-toothed tigers and, later, the Huns for mere survival.
Or, maybe we just haven’t finished figuring it out. Now that we have tigers and Huns out of the way, maybe morality can come off the back burner.
Maybe respect and decency are relatively new ideas and those of us living in our blink-of-a-cosmic-eye lifetime are just starting to integrate them into our nature and the DNA that will eventually confirm our descendants’ progress.
If we can keep from destroying ourselves humanity may have a better, less aggressive, distant future.
But I hope they still play baseball or something like it.
