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Tyler’s first day of high school<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

This past week our youngest grandson, Tyler, started high school. His parents are shocked by how fast he’s grown and I find the whole thing amusing.<\/p>\n

Been there, done that.<\/p>\n

I was a single parent from the time Jeremy was four years old. The term “single parent” isn’t accurate, of course. Our son had two parents who adored him regardless of our inability to continue living together. Maybe more so because of that. He was the glue that secured the broken bond I had with his mother and he still is. Karen and I remain close because our little boy is 42 now with a rapidly aging son of his own.<\/p>\n

I’m just going to say this once because I know he’ll protest and because I don’t want to come across as a nostalgic whiner:<\/p>\n

Sometimes I think my son is a better dad than I was.\u00a0 I want a do-over.<\/p>\n

Wait, hear me out.<\/p>\n

I’m not saying he loves his kid more than I did. Not possible. It’s just that he’s more deeply involved in his son’s daily life and activities than I was when he was little and I’m sorry about that.<\/p>\n

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Jeremy & Tyler
Theatrical nuts don’t fall far from the tree.<\/span><\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Aside from the obvious, that one-parent-at-a-time thing, there is a difference in us as people.<\/p>\n

For one thing, Jeremy has a sharp mind for mechanics and can build stuff. I’m a mechanical idiot. I will offer that as an excuse for never building him the tree house I always wanted him to have. (That and the fact that we never had the requisite tree, but it still haunts me.) I didn’t have a tree house when I was a kid and I wanted one for both of us.<\/p>\n

Jeremy and Emily are scout leaders. I actually tried that when he was little but his Tiger Cub pack of four kids broke up after two or three outings.\u00a0That group was led by all dads, no moms. Go figure.<\/p>\n

More than anything I just wish I had taken my kid to see the world when he was old enough to appreciate it and to give him cherished lifetime memories of the great times and big things we did together.<\/p>\n

We didn’t do those things and I’m still kicking myself.<\/p>\n

CarolAnn reminds me of all the things we did do when our boys were growing up. We took them on a cruise, we took them to Disneyland and the Grand Canyon; Mt. Rushmore, Yellowstone — certainly far more in the way of adventure than either of us had when we were growing up.<\/p>\n

Still, there are regrets and I suppose that’s true for every parent who ever watched his or her child leave the nest far too soon.<\/p>\n

I should have taken him to New York for Broadway theater, we both love that stuff. Why didn’t I ever take him to London, for that matter? Or to Boston, the cradle of American history?<\/p>\n

Regret is just a memory written on my brow, and there’s nothing I can do about it now. -Beth Nielsen Chapman<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Missed opportunities never fade completely but like everything else you get over them, you learn to appreciate what you have and reluctantly shrug off the things you just didn’t get around to doing. Sometimes I still want a do-over but these days the thought barely passes my mind before a soothing explanation follows:<\/p>\n

Your son is a better dad because you set the bar pretty high and taught him how to clear it.<\/p>\n

It took me a long time to spin that story and I’m sticking to it.<\/p>\n

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